Parenthood. Life. Down syndrome. Faith.

My life changed a lot when I found out my 3rd child would be born with Down syndrome. But then again, it really hasn't changed so much.

We're still living life, trusting God, raising our kids, and loving having a baby in the house.



Monday, November 24, 2014

Toss the lists

You've seen the new trend, I know you have.  Lists.  Lists of everything.  25 things to eat before you die.  15 things to buy a grandma.  5 funniest quotes of all time.  And so forth.  Sometimes these are hilarious, sometimes annoying.  Sometimes a little troubling.

When I first started seeing the special needs lists, I was like "Yeah!  You tell 'em!"


But then...it got overwhelming.  I was seeing new lists almost daily.  My friends sent them to me, family tagged me.  And I started to think, what if my friends and family are reading all of these and trying desperately to remember them?  What if they're tiptoeing on eggshells trying not to break a rule or hurt my feelings?

I think the lists are good, in general.  If it makes a few people more aware, or changes a couple of minds about our kids, then that's a great thing.  But all of my friends and family are well-meaning people who support us.  What do they think of all of these lists?  What would I think if I were in their shoes?

Oh poo.  That's what I'd think.  I'd think people shouldn't be so sensitive.  I'd think that as long as I treated their kid the same as all the other kids, then saying a phrase the wrong way shouldn't be a big deal.

And so, I'm letting you off the hook, officially.  I don't care if you call Cade a Down syndrome baby or if you tell me that "they're always so sweet."  All my kids are sweet.  And frankly, sometimes Down syndrome baby is a lot faster to say than the correct baby with Down syndrome.  As long as you're not an insensitive jerk, then I'm cool. 

I just have one request.  Can you remember one thing?

Love him.  

That's it.  Just love him.  Love our kid.  Love us.  Love us by loving our son. 


No babies were harmed in the making of this video.  ;)



Friday, November 21, 2014

Thank you. Really.

It was 2 years ago today that I took a little blood test called MaterniT21.  We'd already been given high odds that our child, our son, would be born with Down syndrome.  This test, non-invasive screening, would help confirm or refute the odds.

Since then, we've come a long way.  You already know that Cade does indeed have Down syndrome.  And you probably already know that it's not a big deal...Cade's amazing and growing and adorable and mischievous. 

Today's post is to say Thank You.  

Thank you for never saying "I'm sorry."

Thank you for hugging us and telling us it would all be okay.

Thank you for loving, for really loving, our son.

Thank you for rejoicing at his birth.

Thank you for never asking "Is he walking yet?" or showing surprise that he isn't.

Thank you for telling us he's adorable.

Thank you for visiting us in the hospital, or congratulating us on Facebook.

Thank you for being excited with us at every milestone.

Thank you for everything over the past two years. 

Thank you.


18 months


Friday, October 31, 2014

So Very Typical, Day 31

This photo looks posed, but it's not.  It looks like a photo studio set up, but it's actually a play bus in our dentist's office.  I snapped this with my cell phone (what else?!) and caught the perfect little smile.  It was pure luck that his outfit coordinated with the bus.  He had a ball driving the bus.

This wraps up 31 days of Rocktober.  It's been fun, and pretty easy, capturing Cade doing so many "typical" things.  He really is a very normal toddler in every way. 



If you're just joining us, October is Down Syndrome Awareness month.  Or as my friend calls it, Rocktober, 'cause our kids ROCK their extra chromosome! 

Early in October, I took a photo of Cade being a very typical toddler.  It gave me an idea...every day this month I'll post a photo of him doing something that's "so very typical".  And on Facebook, I'm inviting my friends to do the same. 

Thursday, October 30, 2014

So Very Typical, Day 30

Cade loves, LOVES, when Colby plays video games.  He'll find a controller (we swipe the battery so he doesn't actually mess up said game), stand next to Colby, and push buttons.  The cutest.


If you're just joining us, October is Down Syndrome Awareness month.  Or as my friend calls it, Rocktober, 'cause our kids ROCK their extra chromosome! 

Early in October, I took a photo of Cade being a very typical toddler.  It gave me an idea...every day this month I'll post a photo of him doing something that's "so very typical".  And on Facebook, I'm inviting my friends to do the same. 

Wednesday, October 29, 2014

So Very Typical, Day 29

Always looking for a mess to make!  This cabinet holds the sippy cups and bottles.  It is, without a doubt, his most favorite cabinet.



If you're just joining us, October is Down Syndrome Awareness month.  Or as my friend calls it, Rocktober, 'cause our kids ROCK their extra chromosome! 

Early in October, I took a photo of Cade being a very typical toddler.  It gave me an idea...every day this month I'll post a photo of him doing something that's "so very typical".  And on Facebook, I'm inviting my friends to do the same. 

Tuesday, October 28, 2014

So Very Typical, Day 28

Looking for a mess to make...he's eyeballing a basket of bibs on the floor.  Bibs, bibs, everywhere bibs.




If you're just joining us, October is Down Syndrome Awareness month.  Or as my friend calls it, Rocktober, 'cause our kids ROCK their extra chromosome! 

Early in October, I took a photo of Cade being a very typical toddler.  It gave me an idea...every day this month I'll post a photo of him doing something that's "so very typical".  And on Facebook, I'm inviting my friends to do the same. 

Monday, October 27, 2014

So Very Typical, Day 27

Noodles.  Everyone likes noodles.  Cade hadn't had them before, at least not by himself, but he did great using his fork.  Eventually the tray was clean. 




If you're just joining us, October is Down Syndrome Awareness month.  Or as my friend calls it, Rocktober, 'cause our kids ROCK their extra chromosome! 

Early in October, I took a photo of Cade being a very typical toddler.  It gave me an idea...every day this month I'll post a photo of him doing something that's "so very typical".  And on Facebook, I'm inviting my friends to do the same. 

Sunday, October 26, 2014

So Very Typical, Day 26

I can't help but love this photo as he's stepping over the toy.  He's a boy in action, always moving, looking for the next toy, the next mess.  Although on this day, he played for a solid 20 minutes with Camille's toys.



If you're just joining us, October is Down Syndrome Awareness month.  Or as my friend calls it, Rocktober, 'cause our kids ROCK their extra chromosome! 

Early in October, I took a photo of Cade being a very typical toddler.  It gave me an idea...every day this month I'll post a photo of him doing something that's "so very typical".  And on Facebook, I'm inviting my friends to do the same. 

Saturday, October 25, 2014

So Very Typical, Day 25

Cade loves wrestling with and attacking his big brother.  He's a rolly polly toddler who rolls all over everyone!



If you're just joining us, October is Down Syndrome Awareness month.  Or as my friend calls it, Rocktober, 'cause our kids ROCK their extra chromosome! 

Early in October, I took a photo of Cade being a very typical toddler.  It gave me an idea...every day this month I'll post a photo of him doing something that's "so very typical".  And on Facebook, I'm inviting my friends to do the same. 

Friday, October 24, 2014

So Very Typical, Day 24

Who doesn't like to wrestle with their papa?  Cade gets right in there with the other kids and tackles Papa.  Giggles rule.



If you're just joining us, October is Down Syndrome Awareness month.  Or as my friend calls it, Rocktober, 'cause our kids ROCK their extra chromosome! 

Early in October, I took a photo of Cade being a very typical toddler.  It gave me an idea...every day this month I'll post a photo of him doing something that's "so very typical".  And on Facebook, I'm inviting my friends to do the same.